You can find free support for working on your own well-being, your relationships, and parenting your children at the Feel Good For Free area of my website.
PsychAlive! My perspective on the challenges we face in becoming healthier and happier, in cultivating better relationships, and in raising our children, is very similar to the views of Dr. Robert Firestone and the Glendon Association. They offer a wide range of resources, including free and low-cost webinars and e-courses at PsychAlive.
Upcoming self-paced e-course, begins November 29, 2016:
The Fantasy Bond: The Key to Understanding Ourselves and Our Relationships Sign up!
Do you find yourself limited in your ability to maintain close relationships and accept real love from a romantic partner?
Do you struggle to consistently provide love to your children and accept their love of you?
Could it be that what is interfering in your life is a core defense you formed in childhood known as the “fantasy bond?” The fantasy bond, a powerful concept developed by Dr. Robert Firestone, is defined as an illusion of connection we originally form with our parent as a defense system to help relieve anxiety and emotional pain. This fantasy may have once helped us cope with our caretakers’ limited ability to provide consistent love and care. However, as we grow up, this early defense system limits our ability to pursue or accept real love and connection.
This eCourse with Dr. Lisa Firestone is designed to help individuals, couples, and therapists understand how these fantasy dynamics negatively impact how you relate to yourself and those closest to you. The course will help you realize how a fantasy bond may be the core factor operating in keeping you from achieving your goals. Dr. Firestone will discuss the original fantasy bond you formed in your family and how it keeps you stuck in the past, reliving rather than living your own life today. This eCourse will further help you to challenge the fantasy bonds that are currently limiting you and your relationships. The eCourse also features an exclusive interview with Dr. Robert W. Firestone, the author of The Fantasy Bond.
Uncovering how this primitive defense operates in you today can help explain everything from destructive relationship patterns to self-sabotaging behaviors, from shattered self-esteem to difficulties relating to your kids. The process of recognizing, understanding, and challenging elements of a fantasy bond is an essential component of a person’s self-development and a means of breaking a cycle of destructive patterns that have often been passed from generation to generation. This online course promises to be an enlightening journey into your past as a means of creating a better future.
Dr. Paul James has written a series of thoughtful articles integrating my theoretical perspective with those of others. You can access these here:
- Intrusive Feelings
- Early Trauma Feelings: What We Don’t Remember Can Hurt Us
- How We Avoid Our Trauma Feelings Can Also Hurt Us
- Relinquishing Ways We Avoid Our Feelings (Defenses) That Hurt Us
- Avoiding Feelings with Anger
- Listening to Feelings from a Wise Perspective
- Responsibility for Feelings
- Alive to Feelings